get it?

you know how sometimes people just don't get it? and sometimes there are specific people who never get it?

unfortunately, i find it hard to be friends with them.

there's one person, for example, that so often misunderstands that i've stopped telling her things. i'd tell a whole long detailed story, with bullet points and highlighted statements and i would even repeat my thesis a couple of times, and she somehow manages to misconstrue the meaning of my story.

there's another who always tries to interpret what i say as reflections of me and my personality, and my world view. he is always dead wrong.

what is it? is it a language barrier? bad listening skills? faulty deductive skills? different world views? prejudice? arrogance?

arrogance? what i mean by this is a combination of egocentrism and countertransference. it's a combination of a) projecting one's own faults onto someone else, and b) an inability to modify one's prejudgment when presented with new facts, because, among other things, to do that would mean admitting one was wrong.

wait, that's not exactly what i meant. oh well. nevermind.

has it occurred to me that maybe i am the one who does not get it? yes. but if i were the odd one out, i wouldn't be surrounded by other people who get it and agree with me.

we should try to be friends anyway. but today i am thankful for people who get it.