what happens on facebook when you die?

i mean no disrepect with the question. it's just that illness and death have touched those around me, and to my surprise, eulogizing on facebook seems to be what people do now.

is that what we do now?

it makes me think. it makes me cry. it raises questions.

...

they are trite questions. those are not worth discussing here.

it is odd to read facebook (i'm not on it much) and find such heartfelt expressions of love, grief, and tribute pasted up amidst the scads of more mundane updates (i am doing this, i am going there, i have kids and here is a picture, i am tired, i am at work, i like sleep, i like food, i like vacation, i am playing an online game).

(that was my impression of a facebook page. did you like it?)

it feels as though something is out of place-- or is it simply that those of us who like to categorize things feel the urge to keep the profound and the banal from touching each other on our dinner plates? or perhaps it is those of us who suffer from a certain brand of self-importance undervalue the everyday events that some deem facebook-worthy?

for the past three weeks i have been saying it out loud. "life is too short to stay in situations that make you deeply unhappy."

(some may accuse me of being deeply unhappy despite any situation. i am incapable of addressing that accusation.)

i don't know what will happen on facebook when i die. probably nothing. that is okay by me.

i don't want my loved ones to do stuff on facebook. but that is neither here nor there.

right now i just want them to know i love them. RIGHT NOW.

DO YOU HEAR ME, ALL OF YOU?